‘I want him to feel at home’: Sister demands brother allow her dog to sleep in his room while he is staying in her apartment, he refuses, family takes sister's side

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 17, 2025 4:00 AM EDT

Whenever we have friends over and they ask us to put our cats in a room while they visit, we always say it's the cats' house more than it is ours. They live there much more than we do, they have been on literally every single furniture, and frankly, there's not much we can do to stop them from going where they want to go. If a houseguest of ours has a problem with that, well, they can go visit someone who doesn't have a pet.

That being said, we do draw the line somewhere. If someone is staying the night, we respect that person's boundaries and respect the fact that they may not want a cat to walk all over them during the night. We even get annoyed by our cats when they decide to wake us up at 5 in the morning for a play session. 

The person in the story below is living through this exact problem. He is staying at his sister's apartment while his place gets renovated, and his sister has a dog, Max. She wants her brother to let Max into his bedroom at night, because she wants Max to feel at home. 

The brother, however, is not really comfortable with this request…

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    "I can't have him jumping around all night"
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    AITAH for refusing to let my sister's dog sleep in my room after she asked?

    Hey reddit, throwaway because my sister knows my account. So I (25M) live with my sister Sarah (27F) for now while my apartment is getting renovated.
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    She has this dog, Max, a really cute but super hyper lab mix. Normally, the dog is fine staying in her room or the living room, but a few days ago she asked if Max could sleep in my room because she "wants him to feel at home." I told her I'm not comfortable with that, I have allergies and I sleep. light so I can't have him. jumping around all night.
    via Hans-WilliHofer
  • 04
    She got kinda upset and said I'm being "selfish" and that I'm overreacting, and she's just asking for one week.
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  • 05
    I said sorry but my answer is still no. She then went to my parents and complained that I'm being mean and "don't care about family" and now they're on her side a bit.
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  • 06
    My parents think I should compromise since it's just for a week. I feel like I'm being reasonable but now everyone's treating me like the bad guy.
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  • 07
    I really like Max, but having him in my room messes with my sleep and my allergies.
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    Calm dog lying near laptop on crumpled blanket on bed
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  • 09
    So reddit, AITAH for refusing to let my sister's dog sleep in my room?
    via Hans-WilliHofer
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    eefr NTA. Why does the dog need to sleep in your room? The justification makes zero sense and doesn't trump your actual medical problem. "I have allergies" should have been the end of the discussion.
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    NTA, HungryFoodie1997 Shouldn't the dog already feel at home since it's his home you're staying at??
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    ChakraMama318 NTA-just leave. This is what I would send to the group chat: "Hey Family, I just wanted to let you know I made a decision. While I deeply appreciate sister taking me in while my apartment is being renovated, it's pretty clear that we don't cohabitate well as adults. And, I'm allergic to Max. So I am going to take off for the remainder of the week and "insert activity here." I find it really hurtful that you all seem to equate my desire to sleep without max as "not caring about fami
    via ChakraMama318
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    HotnCold-Flirt NTA. Allergies can seriously mess with you and a good night's sleep is super important for well being. It's not abt not caring for family, it's abt respecting personal space n boundaries. She's just gotta understand. Stay firm..
    via HotnCold-Flirt
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    wxst3d Nta- you're being reasonable. Your sister is just mad she didn't get her way and is being manipulative.
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    calacmack I think Max will be just fine hanging out in the other rooms in her home. NTA.
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    SandyWaters Why is max needing to sleep on your room for 1 week? What's special spot this 1 week period? Why can't he sleep with your sister like he usually does?
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    DoyoudotheDew NTA. Hard no. I have had dogs most of my adult life and. None ever been allowed to stay or sleep in my bedroom. Their primary job is security.
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